The Divorce Roller coaster!

So, after my husband lost his 8th job in the past 7 years, continued to struggle with alcohol and pot, was consistently a mean/nasty jerk to me in front of my son, I decided to call it quits and filed for divorce after a 4.5 year marriage.  It was difficult, but fortunately I'm very self sufficient and am just hoping and praying I don't end up having to give him half my retirement money and alimony on top of that.  His lack of income isn't because of his inability to earn, it's because of his laziness and sense of entitlement.

Anyhoo, through my attorney I requested that he move out of our home to alleviate the tension and stress while we were going through this process.  He fully intended to stay living under the same roof until we sold our home.  NOT GOOD!  Since the house and all related bills/mortgage is in my name only, it made sense for me stay and for him to leave, but he procrastinated.  Finally, the issue got forced a little and I was prepared to file for exclusive use of the home which was enough for his attorney to advise that he leave of his own will.  Fast forward to "Moving Out Day".  It was unsettling to have him moving his furniture and stuff out, but it was also a huge relief to have him gone.  The weight lifted off me like a 2 ton truck!  For my Ex, however, it was a reality jolt that took him sideways.

He came back to the home mid day to take Little One's crib (I had to put together a new crib that would stay in the home) and my husband was crying saying he get's why I'm doing this, and that his father (who passed away 9 years ago) would be ashamed of him.  Three days later, when he was ready to have Little One overnight for the first time in his new apartment, I came over to check the place out and Husband asked me to stay for dinner.  Over dinner he then proceeded to plead his case, saying he's had an epiphany.
He was going to sober up for a while, he knows he treated me very poorly, trying to get a new job, he would even go to counseling again because he didn't really try very hard when we went... etc, etc. etc.
My response was, that's great, I hope you do all of those things, but I don't think you should do them with any expectations from me.   His last words on this topic was that he was just going to have to show me.  It was such a broken record!  I can recall at least 3 come to Jesus moments I've had with him where I've outlined these issues as being serious and damaging to the relationship and than I will not tolerate them.  At each instance, he's said these things before and said he would change, numerous times with no success, and I'm done. Period.  There is nothing he can show me between now and the final court date that will stop me from following through.

4 days after that, our temporary custody order is in place... he's a little unhappy with his inability to sell assets because we haven't figured out the assets settlement end of things yet...and a handful of other small items come up that require us to make decisions together.  I'm seriously noticing that he's not made any changes to how he treats me, he's still being a defiant jerk just for the sake of being difficult.  Doesn't seem like his epiphany had any staying power...

I just can't wait for the final court date to arrive and be done with this mess.