It's been exactly 2 years since I filed for divorce and almost 1 and a half years since the divorce was final.
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Well there, I said it. I'm slightly ashamed and mostly annoyed that I'm still feeling plagued by this negative emotion. I've done some hard work over the past 3-4 years to help right myself and redefine my existence. I'm no longer the begging and pleading hopeful wife to what I could only describe as a self serving, demeaning, berating, addicted, leaching excuse for a man.
*sigh* That felt good.
That said, I did make good progress over the years, but my ex just can't seem to let things go. I recently disclosed a relationship to him, honoring what I would consider is an obligation to my son's father to be made aware of any new people that are coming our son's life. I would expect that he does the same for me. Nevertheless, in doing so, I've managed to open up a door for my ex to 1. threaten to try take parenting time away from me, 2. attempt to "win me back", and 3. pump me for information as to why our relationship failed. And when I try to leverage the tools I've learned regarding how to deal with his antics, he becomes passive-aggressive and uses our son as a lever to make me comply with his requests.
Getting emotionally engaged in these battles by falling one more time for his tactics. What a drag to find myself in this place again. I don't want to play these games. It's not about winning or loosing, it's about choosing not to play.
